There are many pathways toward healing. What works for one person may or may not work for another person. It’s crucial when faced with any health problem to do a lot of research and be our own best advocates. Learning all we can and practicing self-care should be considered essential steps in recovering from BPD.
Now, I’m not intending to bash on therapists here, there are a handful of really great therapists out there… I had one myself for two years. However, I also feel that the most essential healing aspects of my recovery came from doing a lot of reading and research on my own. I read books on BPD and psychology, accounts of people with BPD and went through several BPD skills workbooks. I don’t think I would have gotten as far as I did in my recovery without doing these things on my own.
One conclusion I came to is the belief that BPD arises from essential steps of learning that were missed when we were children, teenagers or young adults. Most likely this was because we were too busy dealing with assorted traumas (abuse, abandonment, etc.) in our lives instead of experiencing typical stages of development. Lack of proper guidance during this time that would normally come from supportive parents, siblings, etc., were absent as well.
As far as I know, the only way to truly heal from BPD is to go back and learn all those crucial things we missed… how to cope with rejection, is one example. How to self-soothe without self-destructing, is another.
If you or a loved one has this disorder or know of someone who does do all you can to educated yourself and set yourself on the path of feeling better soon!
Hope everyone is having a great day!!